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ggurl

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on: Dec 19, 2013, 03:14 PM
Is it financially practical to spend P30,000 in one day for our son's binyag? What is important to me is that my son will be baptized. The pakain/reception for the guests after is no big deal. I feel that the money can be put to better use and besides my 3month old baby won't be able to appreciate it. I just want a small celebration with the godparents and I don't intend to go beyond P15,000. My parents however feel that we should invite relatives and friends kase once lang daw binyagan ang anak namin. When hubby and I got married sobra akong nanghinayang sa ginastos namin. i dont want to commit the same money mistake again. How do you guys celebrate important milestones in your family?


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Reply #1 on: Dec 19, 2013, 04:10 PM
Binyag ng panganay ko umabot din nga mga 30k...sa hotel kasi yung handaan....then si bunsoy, naghanda na lang sa bahay....di pa yta umabot sa 10k yung ginastos....

pareho naman silang nabinyagan ng maayos....mas tipid pa...at mas masaya kasi di ganung pormal kasi nasa bahay ang handaan na di tulad dati na nasa hotel pa na kelangan umayos ayos..madami pang mga batang nag enjoy kasi may clown....

btw..sinabay pa yung binyag ng bunso at blessing ng bahay..so doble tipid... ;)


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Reply #2 on: Dec 20, 2013, 01:02 AM
@ggurl,

Your decision is right.  Save the money if you can.

Explain to your parents that you and your husband needed to save for your child's future needs like education. 

If your parents insist, tell them in a nice way that your allocated budget is only 15k so if they want a bigger celebration they need to raised the other half of the expenses.

Your family's bright future is more important than a single day party.


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Reply #3 on: Dec 20, 2013, 05:23 AM
The baby, the church, parents and Godparents< that's basically it. And then we went to a picnic in a resort in Nagcarlan because it is summer and the expats were home. Somebody rented a karaoke machine, another one set-up a poker table, the kids owned the kiddie pool>>>not to the baby and her parents' inconvenience.


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Reply #4 on: Dec 20, 2013, 09:06 AM
Thanks so much Bauer. Very well stated talaga. I am financially wiser na. In 2011, when we got married,we spent P350T for the wedding which lasted 4hours. I didn't want it pero was pressured by parents -- one of my biggest money mistakes talaga and I don't want to commit the same mistake again. I keep telling my husband that we don't need to please other people. What's important is our baby will be baptized. Plus, I haven't fully recovered from giving birth, I don't feel like entertaining people.


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Reply #5 on: Dec 20, 2013, 09:20 AM
Bakit kaya pagdating sa mga okasyon ng pamilya minsan di mo mapigilan ang sarili mo na gumastos ng gumastos para lang ma appreciate ng iba lalo na kapag alam mong medyo may pera kana? eh kung tutuusin marami pang mas importanting pagkakagastusan kaysa mga okasyon na pweda maging bungga? EGO ba ang tawag dito? entertaining other people at your own cost?


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Reply #6 on: Dec 21, 2013, 02:07 AM
marami din namang okasyon na guma gastos na hindi naman kasi para ma appreciate ng iba; kundi dahil masayang maka sama ang mga taong malapit sa iyo.

example, i host at least four gatherings per year, two of which are always at home (thanksgiving and christmas). the other two are my and my wife's birthdays. family and friends are always invited.

wala namang problema kung ang gastusin ay pinag handaan at kasama sa budget.

pero sa sitwasyon ni TS, na alam niya na mas mabuting itabi para sa ibang gastusin ang pera, yun ang dapat niyang gawin.



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Reply #7 on: Dec 21, 2013, 08:54 AM
Just a thought from the movie Fast 6, me conversation si Torreto at si Shaw tungkol sa man's code, si Toretto ang code nya about Family which is related mostly sa ating mga pinoy... nways basta para sa pamilya at pakikisama kaya isacrifice ni no man maging future nila, which for me is dapat mabago na sa culture natin... hehehe...


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Reply #8 on: Dec 21, 2013, 10:02 AM
Hello, ggurl.

There are ways to explain your decision to your parents without hurting their feelings. It will also let them know that you're an independent adult now and as such, are  entitled to do what you think is best as far as your own new family is concerned. Yes, they may make suggestions but the final say is yours and your husband's.

Otherwise, you'll only feel resentful because, as with your wedding, you did things not because you wanted to but because of the pressure to please.  Finally, as a new mom, there are so many things you have to contend with already (including physical and emotional changes) that the best your parents can do is to be sensitive and understanding enough to allow you all the slack you need.


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Reply #9 on: Dec 21, 2013, 08:02 PM
in my case, since iisa lang anak namin (at malabong malabo ng madagdagan), sinicelebrate ko ang okasyon na ito sa anak namin na hindi ko nililimitahan yung budget. medyo swerte din ako kasi nag-iisang apo lang din sya kaya tulong tulong sa pag gastos yung parents na asawa ko.

every sahod din kasi may  portion sa sahod na naka-budget sa mga special na okasyon kaya pag enough pa yung pera para sa special okasyon, go lang ng go.


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Reply #10 on: Dec 22, 2013, 07:46 PM
maliit lang yang 15k at konti lang maiimbitahan mo diyan. mam kung may pang gastos ka okay lang na lakihan mo budget mo pero kung wala naman pera wag mo
na pilitin pa at wag na mangutang para lang may pang handa. base naman sa experience ko dahil marami ako anak anim anak ko madalas kami magpaparty ng asawa ko. sinasama ko na sa savings ung mga party at occassions taon taon para mas mapaghandaan, sa totoo lang hindi ko iniisip na gastos un kasi priceless naman ang experience na un tapos gustong gusto pa panoorin ng mga anak ko ang mga videos namin nung party nila. paulit ulit nilang pinapanood. hehe


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Reply #11 on: Dec 23, 2013, 01:11 PM
para kanino ba talaga ung binyag?  para sa bata ba, to bring them into the christian world?  o para pakainin ang mga friends and relatives?  (rhetorical question of course).. but the former is not expensive, the latter is.
« Last Edit: Dec 23, 2013, 01:14 PM by noobydooby »


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Reply #12 on: Dec 23, 2013, 03:15 PM
Thanks for all your replies. I've been feeling stressed these days. The schedule of our baby's binyag is January 5 next year. Hubby is not very supportive. He wants to invite at least 50 people --- people / couples who invited us during their kids' binyag and parties. Nakakahiya raw na ininvite kami sa binyag or party ng anak nila tapos we won't be returning the invite. May pera naman daw, minsan Lang at nag-Iisang anak si baby. Hayzz... Kaka-stress tuloy.

Seaman ofw si  hubby while I have a job with the government. Nakakainis yung sinasabi nyang kawawa factor. I feel very uncomfortable spending money for pakain. Ang main concern ok is mabinyagan si baby atchaka may emergency fund kami so that I can sleep well at night.


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Reply #13 on: Dec 23, 2013, 06:22 PM
there are catering companies that offer 200-300 per head menus.  even less for kids menus.  yan pasok sa 15k budget.  baka mka mura ka pa if order lang ng food, wala ng serving, delivery, waiters, etc..


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Reply #14 on: Jan 01, 2014, 09:45 PM
Sa panganay namin gumastos kami ng 20k ++. Sa second less than the first one. Ang maganda dito sa second namin. Sa maxs ang binyagan then we have the card na entitled and anak namin ng free regular chicken sa birthday and christmas until the age of 7. Tapos may mga discounts pa etc. ang point ko lang we gain something like freebies. Magkano din ang regular chicken nila nasa 300 na. Anyway yung 3rd namin ang pinaka tipid. Mc do na lang.haha


 


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