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How to Date a Lawyer
If you have a certain lawyer in your sights and want to find a way to make him/her yours you’ll need to take a few things into consideration. Lawyers have their own way of doing things, whether you are dating a hard-nosed criminal defense attorney or a passionate environmental lawyer, figuring out how to make him/her happy while feeding your soul and maintaining your independence is the name of the game.
Tips and Warnings
1 Understand that the firm “owns” your target. In most cases, unless your attorney works for the government, his/her entire career is based on billable hours. This means that the law firm partners will be counting on the attorney to work on cases as often as possible--including weekends and evenings.
Be cool when he/she has to cancel dinner or weekend plans. Be flexible with your time and understand that if he/she has to cancel at the last time, the decision may not be his/her own.
Ask about your attorney date’s goals. He/she may want to make partner relatively quickly, which means that more hours in the office or in court may be required.
Have a flexible approach to dating. You may have arranged for a romantic dinner for two at a restaurant that took months to obtain a reservation, but then he/she has to work. Instead of sulking or ditching him/her, create a picnic dinner and show up at the office instead.
2 Prepare to have spirited conversations. While not all attorneys thrive on full-blown debate opportunities with everyone, chances are if you are dating a lawyer, he/she will enjoy engaging in lively conversation on a variety of topics.
Avoid being intimidated by his/her law degree if you are in a debate. Just because your date went to law school does not put him/her in a position of power over you. Be confident in your own knowledge and intelligence and be comfortable to discuss a wide range of topics.
Learn when to agree to disagree. There’s no point getting into a spat over a difference of opinion. While perhaps your attorney mate may be used to a fiery conversation with colleagues and then go back to business as usual, let him/her know that once things get a little too heated you’d rather just agree to disagree (rather than get into a knock down, drag out fight).
Identify topics that are off limits. Perhaps its politics or religion, but find those hot button topics that make your blood boil (and where you differ in opinion) and agree to leave those topics off the table.
3 Embrace your own career and independence. An attorney is going to be happier dating someone who is just was passionate about his/her career so instead of waiting for the phone to ring, dig deep into your job or passion.
Adopt the “work hard, play hard” mantra. If you put in a 12-hour day you may not feel like hitting the clubs after work. However, commit to a fun activity once the weekend hits such as a pub-crawl, venturing into the city or even getting out of town.
Make him/her wait for you sometimes too. Your attorney boyfriend/girlfriend doesn’t dump work the minute you snap your fingers so don’t be expected to do the same every time he/she has a free minute.
Decide whether you will discuss work while on dates or leave it behind. Some couples do better if work is kept out of the relationship, whereas others thrive on discussing what they did during their professional day.
4 Decide if this is the life for you. If you prefer to date someone who can be at your beck and call at a moment’s notice you may be better off dating someone from another profession.
Many non-attorney spouses spend a considerable amount of time on their own. Whether he/she is in trial or traveling, getting serious with an attorney may mean that you won’t have as much time together as you would with someone from another discipline.
Look beyond the money. While many attorneys make a sizable income, it comes at a price. Decide what is most important to you--can you live comfortably, but with limited time with your partner or is money not enough?
Tips
Try to figure out when you are being played. If you are dating a trial lawyer, he/she most likely possess the power of persuasion. Stick to your ideals and goals and don’t let anyone sway you from your original focus.
Learn from your attorney boyfriend/girlfriend. Dating a lawyer is a great time to glean more information about their job. Typically lawyers are a potpourri of information so ask an environmental lawyer about global warming or find out more about the criminal justice system from a prosecutor.
Attorneys love proof during a debate, so when having a rousing discussion be able to cite sources for that double whammy.
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... and if you hit it off well and the thing gets more serious, realize that its not gonna get easier...http://m.wikihow.com/Stay-Married-to-an-AttorneyHow to Stay Married to an Attorney
Marrying an attorney seemed like a good idea in the beginning but as the years increased, you began to understand the high divorce rate for attorneys. While at times being married to an attorney may be frustrating, you can do it without losing your mind.
Understanding the Attorney's Thinking Process
1 Understand the way an attorney thinks. Law school changes the way a person thinks. This is intentional on the school’s part and is done to properly prepare an attorney for the line of work they are entering. Everyday a law student reads, studies, and analyzes case after case in preparation for their next class. The professor then selects a random student and verbally quizzes them about one of the cases until they fail. The questions at first are open-ended, meaning that multiple answers can be correct, and then rapidly become close-ended, meaning that there is a right or wrong answer. This is called the Socratic Method of teaching, which has been used effectively as a training method for centuries.
2 Work with the thinking. By understanding how your spouse has been trained to think and working with that way of thinking instead of against it, you can minimize the disagreements and reduce the tension at home. Moreover, this understanding will help you to understand how futile it is to try and change your attorney spouse (indeed, it's futile to try and change any spouse). Instead, change your response and get over the idea that your spouse needs to change for you. After all, they will not be an attorney for long if they abandon the way they were taught to think in law school.
Dealing with Questions
1 Expect questioning. This should be your “ah-ha” moment. It probably started innocently enough with an open-ended question from your attorney spouse. You answered the question but then, for some reason, your spouse did not like the response and began asking question after question until you became so confused that you just said whatever you needed to just to end the discussion. Thinking that turn-around is fair play, you then attempt the same tactic only to find that you are shut-down after the first remark. This leaves you angry and confused; however, if you try to verbalize your emotions, the response is generally unsympathetic.
Don't take this personally. Remind yourself of how the attorney has been trained to think and instead, work on dealing with your spouse in ways that manage around the question problem.
2 Don’t ask questions. Your attorney spouse has a black-belt in answering questions the way they should have been asked, dodging questions they don’t want to answer, and anticipating your line of questioning long before you might even know where you are headed. So don’t ask questions, especially if you already know the answer and are trying to get your spouse on your side. This will backfire every time.
3 Change from questions to making clarifying statements. Instead of using questions, say what you mean. For example, say “I want pizza for dinner” instead of “what do you want for dinner”. “We are going to the Jones’ house for dinner” instead of “do you want to go to the Jones’ house for dinner”. Of course, be careful not to sound too bossy in your statements because that will only be met with resistance. But it's good assertiveness practice to express your wants rather than leaving yourself open to someone else's expectations.
Keeping Things Simple
1 Don’t over explain. Your attorney spouse is already likely to over explain nearly everything and have multiple reasons for even simple tasks. From your side of things, don’t fall into this trap and add to the over explanation. If you do, your spouse is likely to find the hole in your explanation and then the entire discussion becomes questionable. For if one small part of the argument is wrong, then the whole thing can be thrown out. The best way to avoid this is by not over explaining. If you have to repeat the same explanation over again, this is preferable to going on and on. Let your “yes” be “yes” and your “no” be “no” and keep your statements simple.
The "broken record" approach often promoted by cognitive behavioral therapists is useful here; it may sound repetitive (because it is) but it will totally clarify that you mean what you're saying and that you're not straying from it for any reason.
2 Keep your emotions out of the conversation. Your attorney spouse has been trained to keep their emotions in check while inciting the other person to get into an emotional state. This is done because if the other person gets emotional, then their arguments are not likely to be as rational and therefore can be easily broken down. If this is something your spouse is trying out on you too, play the by the same rules and keep your own emotions in check too, during the disagreement. This is easier said than done and it takes some practice but it can also take heat out of the argument and give you clear thinking space.
There is nothing wrong with taking a break if you feel out of control and agreeing to discuss the matter later. But then you must discuss it fairly soon afterward, as in within the next 24 hours, or you will be met with additional and avoidable frustration.
Tips
None of this lets your spouse off the hook of trying harder. There is no harm in discussing how you perceive your spouse's style of interaction with you and asking that the lawyering approach be left at the door when he or she comes home. And marriage counseling may also be appropriate if you don't feel as if a simple conversation about civil interactions is making leeway––attorneys understand the occasional need for mediators.
