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CX5

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on: Mar 27, 2014, 01:04 PM
Just want to share my story.

I am a Seafarer and I fell in love with my fellow worker. She is a single-mom and a very responsible one.
During the first few weeks she was making jokes, "asking for a date." I didn't buy this idea because I know she was just joking. But she doesn't know that I am already interested with her.
The first time we talk on the phone, she mentioned that she is looking to get settled. She wants to get married. And then she asked a hypothetical question if kung ready na ba ako magpakasal pero I told her dapat pinag-iisipan muna yan (I'm 38 y.o btw) And nagbiro ako na I don't want to change my routine.
After a few days, I asked her for a date. She said YES but last minute she decided to cancel because of conflict in her schedule. But what's funny is that she went out that night with other girls and we ended up being on the same bar.
I was looking at her from a distance and I know she was jealous because I was with a group of other female workers.
I always tried asking her for a date but she would always say NO because she is busy at work.
One time I told her that I really like her and if there is a chance that she would also like me. She did not gave me a straight answer but instead she told me that she is "confused" I did not elaborate on this topic because this is the least answer I was expecting (Mejo na-depressed ng konti..hehe)
We have never been on a date. But we always call each other or see each other even for a few minutes.
I went for a short vacation and we keep our communications open. When I return to the ship I then again tried asking her for a date or if there is a chance that we could be together.
I've been getting mix signals.. Alam mo yung "feeling mo gusto ka rin nya pero parang wala syang effort na maging kayo. palaging ayaw or meron dahilan every time you would ask her out or have meals together. Even her schedule parang ayaw nya ipaalam. If you will ask her hanggang what time ang duty mo, or sabay tayo kumain? she will say " hindi ko alam kung ano oras ako matatapos"
Eventually, I told her ayoko na. Gusto ko na huminto sa panliligaw. Syempre, any girl would say to herself " bahala ka, kung yan ang gusto mo"  One time, she asked me, Kung bakit ayaw ko na.. Ang sabi ko pakiramdam ko talo na ako.. Parang walang patutunguhan itong ginagawa ko.  Bigla na naman ako napaisip na bakit nya sasabihin sa akin ang ganito.  is she trying to test me, kung seryoso ba ako talaga or talagang "confused" pa rin sya.  Sinabi ko na lang na maghihintay na lang ako sayo pag ready ka na. She also told me na priority nya ngayon ang work and kapag na-iinlove sya "na wi-windang sya"
4 months have passed and ganun pa rin ang situation namin. Hindi ko sya naka-date even once. Although she seldoms go out ng barko kasi busy sa work nila. Babalik na naman ako ng pilipinas and hindi pa rin nag mo-move on ang sitwasyon namin. Palagi lang usap sa phone and kwentuhan sandali.. Wala naman syang ibang karelasyon sa barko. Hindi ko lang alam kung me boyfriend sya sa pilipinas.
I really like her pero parang ayaw nya ako maka move forward. As if she is sending a msg na Ayoko kita mawala pero hanggang dyan ka lang.hehe 

Paki clarify nga mga girls kung ano ibig sabihin ng confused? Dalawa kasi ang naiisip ko: either she has a boyfriend in the Philippines na hindi na nya gusto or iniisip nya na hindi ako seryoso..

Sorry mejo mahaba na ang kwento ko..hehe


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Reply #1 on: Mar 28, 2014, 09:15 PM
baka in love pa cya sa father ng anak nya o kaya takot baka anakan mo lang :)


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Reply #2 on: Mar 28, 2014, 09:26 PM
Naku! Usapang pag ibig pala ito.Bro kong ako sayu mag move on kana marami pang iabng babae diyan at may kakayanan ka naman sa buhay..Huwag mong ipagpilitan ang isang bagay na hindi naman pwede. Pero bago ka mag totally move on kausapin mo xa ng masinsinan itanung mu sa kanya YES or No lang naman ang sagot diyan eh. Don't let complicated situations be more complicated.


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Reply #3 on: Mar 29, 2014, 05:09 AM
OO nga eh,  move on na dapat. Pero pag na-iinlove talaga mejo matagal maka pag move on. Lalo na pag araw-araw mo nakikita sa work place.
One of this days, kakausapin ko sya ulit. Hopefully mas malinaw na yung sagot nya and hindi yung
"Confused pa rin ako." 

 :thankyou:
« Last Edit: Mar 29, 2014, 10:19 AM by CX5 »


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Reply #4 on: Mar 29, 2014, 11:20 AM
Hula ko lang, CX5: She's confused because maybe she likes you but she's at a point where she's looking to settle down--and you give the impression that (at  38) you're not up for it.

Anyway, you might want to check out this interesting article: http://www.ozy.com/resolved/never-married-men-over-40/3327.article?utm_source=outbrain&utm_medium=referral



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Reply #5 on: Mar 29, 2014, 04:58 PM
Hula ko lang, CX5: She's confused because maybe she likes you but she's at a point where she's looking to settle down--and you give the impression that (at  38) you're not up for it.

Anyway, you might want to check out this interesting article: http://www.ozy.com/resolved/never-married-men-over-40/3327.article?utm_source=outbrain&utm_medium=referral



Thanks Prospera... Tama po kayo. Mukhang ganun na nga ang nangyari. She is looking for someone na willing na mag settle down and she thinks im not into it. Pero sana naman binigyan nya ako ng chance to prove myself. Gusto ko na rin magka family pero I have a health issue and that's the one pushing me from settling down. Baka kasi kapag nalaman ng girl bigla na lang ako iwan. Btw, it has nothing to do with male sexuality.hehe It is more like diabetes, high blood sort of health issue... Anyways, I'm just being honest with her. Gusto ko muna sya makilala ng lubusan and ganun din naman on her part.
Haaaay, Kung ganun nga ang nasa isip nya, paano ko kaya babaguhin yun?  Hindi naman pwede agad-agad eh sabihan ko sya na ready na ako to get married.


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Reply #6 on: Apr 08, 2014, 09:13 AM
Finally found out she is dating someone last week.
Have to move on na and find another one  :(


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Reply #7 on: Apr 08, 2014, 01:48 PM
Finally found out she is dating someone last week.
Have to move on na and find another one  :(

tama yan bro.. dami pang iba dyan  :hihi:


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Reply #8 on: Apr 08, 2014, 02:59 PM
Now you should move on your life and should find another girl which understand you.


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Reply #9 on: Apr 08, 2014, 08:06 PM
ay sad naman ng outcome.

by the way CX5, nextym wag ka matakot maging honest about your health condition sa bago mong liligawan, pero dont spill the beans straight away. Ang importante be honest para hindi wrong signal yung pinapakita mu, baka tuloy akala ni girl eh ayaw mu pa mag settle down, yun pala it is something else. Kung type ka ng girl kahit me me health issue ka (siguro wag lang aids) and hindi naman major major (I suppose hindi kase nasa barko ka) tatanggapin ka parin nuon. Oh well..dami kong kilalang single dito sa UAE..pakilala nalang kita :)



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Reply #10 on: Apr 08, 2014, 08:12 PM
hypothesis resolve.

She is definitely confused!

Move on.. let it go.... (watch frozen, alone) :hihi: feel young!


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Reply #11 on: Apr 08, 2014, 10:29 PM
ay sad naman ng outcome.

by the way CX5, nextym wag ka matakot maging honest about your health condition sa bago mong liligawan, pero dont spill the beans straight away. Ang importante be honest para hindi wrong signal yung pinapakita mu, baka tuloy akala ni girl eh ayaw mu pa mag settle down, yun pala it is something else. Kung type ka ng girl kahit me me health issue ka (siguro wag lang aids) and hindi naman major major (I suppose hindi kase nasa barko ka) tatanggapin ka parin nuon. Oh well..dami kong kilalang single dito sa UAE..pakilala nalang kita :)


Definitely hindi po AIDS.  :D


 


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