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Is the guy supposed to pay for everything? I think that's pretty antiquated thinking, esp if both people are of similar age and both have jobs.

I think the guy should pay for the first 2 or 3 dates, and then maybe not even 50-50, but the girl should at least pay for some things.

My last gf had a job but pretty much expected me to pay for everything everytime, it just started annoying me, felt like I was her sponsor instead of her bf. It kind of resulted in a breakup when I eventually let her know I was quite annoyed that she never offered to chip in for anything.

What in your view is the right way?
« Last Edit: Oct 10, 2010, 01:49 AM by FutureGizmo »


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Uhmmm well base from experience I really had no problem about it. I don't mind if sometimes its me who pay the bills or its him or its 50-50 - whatever. but I always make some efforts to give my share because I'm not really used of someone even if he's my BF spending too much money on me.

But if its a date with someone new and a date or even a simple "gimmick" is being planned - I immediately asked how to go about the bills..if its KKB or 50-50 so I can prepare myself well and also inform them as to how much I can only afford to spend kasi baka mamaya sa sobrang mahal yun kakainan or pupuntahan namin eh over my budget na.. either I will just beg off or they/he will set a compromise with me in changing the venue.

There were times when a friend asked me to watch a movie with him and unfortunately that time I don't have a budget for it, then he  volunteered to "treat" me, I obliged but I took the initiative in getting and paying  our snack.

There were also times that I took the initiative in asking out (dinner or movie) and once I do such, I make sure that I'm prepared to pay for everything because I want my friend/bf to feel that I can and I'm very willing  to spend money on him/them too because for me, money is not the main issue,but the company and time spend being with them/him..

There were also a time that a guy was honest enough to tell me that he doesn't have enough money to treat me to a fancier place and I told him that I don't mind - either I can share the bill with him or he can just treat me to a place that he can afford - mas ok yun sa simula pa lang sabihin nya na ang totoo kesa pareho kaming mapahiya at maghugas ng pinggan ha ha ha


As with other people, I believed that it will be much easier for both parties  if things will be discussed before hand.. even before a serious relationship starts between them or while they are just dating or just being friends pa lang as to their views in paying the bills.. sometimes it also depends on the "spending capacity" of someone..other people kasi once they knew that the other person has a "thicker and deeper pocket" than them its already assumed that he will pay the bill in the end.


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Magastos talagang magkaroon ng girl friend, I also have the same experience where you have to pay for all of the expenses. It seems like that it is your responsibility to treat her at all cost. Anyway, as what has been stated on the other thread being single is still the best but not when you have already reach such an age.


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After five years of relationship, di ko sinsabi s GF ko na nahihirapan na ko kasi mgastos tlga lalo na pag date. Sabayan p ng dec. 3 events. Xmas, New Year at Anniversary kamusta nman un? ubos 13th month pay ko wla p ako naibigay s parents ko :(.

anyway sa ngaun nkakaramdam n sya n pag wla akong pera. hirap tlga pag mas bata gf mo at nsa mga 4 years ang agwat kla kasi nila pag matanda kna madmi kna pera.


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^^
Hehehe ganun bayun. Salamat for sharing your experience. From the time on, ang hahanapin ko is yung mas matanda sa akin para hindi magastos.


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I agree sa relationship na share sa expenses, pero pag may event depende na sa tao kung may plan ba yung girl or yung guy


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Dapat hatian kayo para hindi naman mahirapan yung isa. Puwede rin kayo magipon together tapos dun niyo kunin expenses niyo.


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Well, on this generation, both should share expenses, especially if you are seeing almost everyday. Pag special occasions, yun, pwede na magtreat ang isa.


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Oh, I never think of this matter. I simply think that we are one.


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pero kong ako sa inyo pipili muna ako nang kasing gulang ko para sa lahat nang gastos hati kayo..
siguradong hindi kayo mag aaway..
ma hahandle nyong dalawa ang relationship nyo..

share lang...


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From what I read here, are all Filipina women always waiting for their men to pay for them? Because we are not like that here in Europe. We are more independent, if we want, we will pay, it is not the matter of being a gentle man but as fairness.


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ang hirap naman pag yung guy lagi nag ppay, cguro may times dapat na mag offer ang girl mag pay


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I usually just project im kuripot that way they wont ask for that much...
and if i do spend that much its always on a budget and they really surprised plus points to me...  :hihi: :hihi:


 


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